Whether you’re waiting in line at the grocery store, chatting with the person next to you in yoga class, having a conversation with your hair dresser, or watching television, all around you, other women are criticizing their man or men in general.
The message is loud and clear; men are dumb, incompetent, simple minded, stupid, or worse.
While waiting in line at the grocery store last fall I heard a lady say to her friend “ just wait until you see our pumpkin this year, I let Mark carve it” and then the other lady responded “well you should see how Joey is dressed this morning, my husband dressed him.”
A part of me wanted to turn around and console these poor women that wound up with a man that couldn’t dress his son appropriately or one that couldn’t carve a pumpkin correctly. But of course I knew they were simply engaging in their favorite past time: Male Bashing.
Male bashing has become socially acceptable chit chat among women, it's a part of our culture, it's a woman's right and if men don’t like it they should just grow up and act like a “man”. Women engage in male bashing so frequently now they may not even consciously be aware of it.
LOVE AND MADNESS
Most problems within relationships could be bypassed altogether if either person or both people in the relationship would just stop and acknowledge the other person’s feelings and point of view.
This doesn't mean that you have to agree with the other person or decide that he or she is right (or wrong.) It just means that you are able and willing to comprehend and not dismiss the other person’s sense of things.
Feelings can be extremely deceptive. When we’re in a good mood everything in life looks and feels great even though it may not be.
When we’re in a bad mood everything in life looks and feels terrible even though our life may actually be better than it appears at the moment.
When we’re in a bad mood we automatically lose our perspective and common sense. We misinterpret the intentions of everyone around us.
When we’re in a good mood no matter what seems to be happening we take it in stride. Our relationships seem to flow and communication is free and easy
SO HOW CAN WE STACK THE DECK IN OUR FAVOR?